Ah, the dreaded breakup. Nobody likes doing it, especially when the holidays are right around the corner. While everybody else is planning thanksgiving dinners and picking out Christmas gifts for that special someone, you're contemplating just how to break the news to your s/o that the relationship just isn't working out any more. Sadly, some things simply can't be avoided, and us girls know all too well that it's far better to dump a lousy boyfriend than to have a lousy boyfriend dump you. Here are five signs that the time is ripe to get rid of your ball-and-chain.
1: He Can't Stay Off His Phone When He's With You
First of all, let me just say that this is just downright disrespectful. If you've made the effort to spend quality time with your man, he should at least be willing to resist the lure of Facebook notifications and Whatsapp messages for a few hours. If he never just puts his phone away and focuses on you when you spend time together, it's a clear sign that uninterrupted quality time with you isn't high on his list of priorities, and if it isn't, exactly what, then, is the point of your relationship?
I'm talking more than once (matter of fact, you've lost count of the many times it has happened) and you know it because when he finally picks up, he either has a lame excuse for ignoring you or he reacts angrily, as though you're the one in the wrong. Your guy probably answers every call he receives from others while he's with you; yet somehow always manages to miss your calls, particularly when he's with others. This says only one thing: HE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU. And if he doesn't, why force him? Do him (and yourself) a favor and never talk to him again.
3: Unless You Initiate Them, Dates Simply Do Not Happen
Spending another Saturday night home alone? Chances are you blew off your girlfriends to hang out with your beau, and, for the millionth time, he has either turned you down or ditched you at the last minute. Most likely, "something important" has come up for him, so I'm guessing to him, you're not that important. Worse, if you hadn't been the one to ask him out, he never would have had the chance to ditch you, because he never bothers asking you out on dates any more. While you're sitting at home sulking and getting new wrinkles, he's probably out with his boys (or another woman?) painting the town red. Two words: leave him. There are probably plenty of other guys willing to ask out an awesome chick like you ;-)
4: It's Been Over A Year, And He Hasn't Introduced You To His Folks
This includes family and close friends. It's an age-old rule that any man who sees you in his future will definitely introduce you to the people that matter to him. If he has made no effort to do so, nor has he indicated to you that he has any intentions to, you're wasting your time. You should be with a man who sees you as more than just a passing amusement.
5: He No Longer Randomly Says "I Love You"....
....and he seldom replies when you say it. I saved this one for last because it's the biggest, most glaring red flag that your relationship is doomed. If the L word has become more like a more offensive four-letter-word to him, so much so that he seems to cringe when you say it, you're basically hanging on to nothing at all. At the end of the day, a relationship ought to make you feel good, not bad, and there certainly should be some clear goal in being with each other. Don't hold on to a guy that has let you go ages ago. Suck it up like a grown woman should and tell that man to make like a trampoline and bounce.