Thursday, 20 November 2014
WHY GIRLS AND GUYS CAN'T BE BEST FRIENDS
Yeah, I said it. It's not possible. Even though we've seen it sweetly portrayed on TV shows like Veronica Mars and Friends, in real life, the guy-girl best friend combo just doesn't work out. And here are a couple of reasons why.
HE HAS A PENIS
...and men, at one point or other, tend to think with their penises. So picture this: you're shooting the breeze with your best male buddy, and, since he's your best male buddy, you don't bother buttoning your blouse all the way up. So what if he catches a glimpse of some cleavage? He's used to seeing you that way by now, right? Wrong. Your peeking cleavage just might be the source of the erection he's trying to hide from you.
If he's looked at you long enough to notice what makes you uniquely feminine, chances are he's thought about sleeping with you at least once; an occurrence that simply won't happen with a girl best friend, just saying....
...and when you do, you tend to get a little more emotional than usual. So a rough day + PMS symptoms + a hug, a listening ear and an attempt to cheer you up from your testosterone-bearing best buddy might just translate to "Oh my gosh, I think I'm falling in love with him".
Okay ladies, all jokes aside, we really are the sex that's more in touch with our emotions. And at times, nothing is sexier than a guy who isn't afraid to show you that he's also in touch with his, maybe not enough to cry during a sad movie, but enough to show genuine concern for you when you're down. Your male bestie won't be your bestie if he hasn't attempted to to do this a few times. All that TLC just might make you fall in love....
YOU'VE SEEN EACH OTHER NAKED
...and I wasn't talking about physical nakedness. Okay, that too....but the other kind of nakedness where you trust someone enough to let them in on your dreams, your desires, your fears and your goals. This person has seen you at your best and at your worst, and has stuck by you through it. What better person to become romantically involved with, then?
THE BOTTOM LINE
Having a bestie of the opposite sex certainly has its advantages, but the reality is, because it's a guy-girl friendship, the possibility always looms that it could turn into something more. Good luck trying to keep it strictly platonic ;-)